Remaja hamil 6 bulan anak luar nikah makan nanas nak gugurkan kandungan, "Dia kata nak balik raya"


BIARPUN bahang sambutan Aidilfitri kian terasa, kisah suka duka sepanjang bulan Ramadan pastinya kekal di ingatan kita semua.

Begitu juga dengan pakar perunding keluarga ini yang masih dihantui insiden salah seorang peserta kem cuti sekolah kendaliannya yang hamil anak luar nikah.

Bukan sahaja hamil pada usia 15 tahun kerana telanjur dengan teman lelakinya, malahan remaja itu turut berusaha 'banyak kali untuk menggugurkan kandungannya.


Namun dengan takdir Allah niat tersebut tidak berjaya.

Kisah benar itu masih segar di ingatan Rohizam Kasim, 48, atau lebih dikenali sebagai Pak Riz walaupun ia sudah empat tahun berlalu.

"Pelajar ini antara 300 peserta yang hadir ke program cuti sekolah anjuran saya. Dia daftar untuk program dua minggu. Semasa program al-Quran peserta perempuan dan lelaki dikehendaki memakai jubah.

"Namun saya bagaikan tertarik dengan peserta tersebut. Naluri saya seakan-akan berkata ada sesuatu yang tidak kena dengan gadis itu. Saya tak sedap hati maka saya minta isteri saya yang juga bekas jururawat untuk mendekatinya.

Pak Riz berkongsi kisah benar itu di Facebook miliknya baru-baru ini.

"Isteri saya pun borak-borak dan pegang perut dia. Budaknya kecil sahaja tapi bila pegang perutnya dipegang, isteri saya yakin dia memang mengandung. Tapi peserta tu macam tak nak beri kerjasama," katanya ketika dihubungi mStar.

Bimbang dengan perkara itu, Pak Riz berkata dia terpaksa menghubungi keluarga peserta tersebut dan meminta mereka untuk datang segera bertemu dengannya.

"Program ini kalau ikutkan dia tak dibenarkan terlibat kerana takut ada masalah. Bila parents datang saya tak benarkan mereka jumpa gadis tersebut dulu takut terperanjat sebab mereka tak tahu anak mereka mengandung.

"Ayah dia sebenarnya kahwin lain, jadi gadis ini memang tak ngam dengan mak tiri dia. Mungkin disebabkan dia bermain dengan persepsi ibu tiri dia tak sayang dia, lebihkan adik-adik lain dia guna kesempatan itu hidup sebagai remaja terbiar.

"Bila parents tak tahu dia mengandung memang peliklah kan sebab kandungan dia waktu tu sekitar enam bulan. Jadi kita minta parents bawa anak mereka untuk buat pemeriksaan kesihatan bagi mengesahkan kenyataan saya mengenai kehamilannya," katanya yang berasal dari Klebang Besar, Melaka.

Bagaimanapun Pak Riz berkata dia memberi jaminan kepada ibu bapa gadis itu bahawa dia akan menjaga anak mereka dan bayi yang dikandung andai dia disahkan hamil.

"Ibu bapa dia kelihatan terpingga-pingga mungkin terkejut. Tapi saya beritahu encik jangan pening kepala. Saya tahu (encik) takkan ada masa dan (encik) tak tahu handle anak mengandung ni. Biar saya uruskan. Bila saya cakap macam tu ayah dia macam lega sikitlah.

Remaja itu disahkan hamil. Sekadar gambar hiasan.

"Parents datang semula bersama anak empat hari kemudian beritahu memang sah anak mereka mengandung. Gadis tu beritahu dia tak nak baby tu dan kalau saya nak ambillah. Saya kata bukan isu itu, saya cuma nak akan bantu dia lahirkan anaknya.

"Jadi gadis itu pun jalani kehidupan bersama pelajar perempuan di madrasah saya di Melaka. Maknanya dia menjalani kehidupan macam pelajar lain di madrasah ini. Bangun pagi-pagi solat kemudian berzikir dan baca al-Quran. Dia buat semua dan patuh," katanya.

Bagaimanapun Pak Riz terkejut apabila gadis itu berusaha untuk menggugurkan kandungannya pada bulan Ramadan di madrasah tersebut kerana mahu balik beraya.

"Bila bulan puasa kami ada bawa masuk nanas ke madrasah untuk hidangan pelajar di bulan puasa. Kami pun tak perasaan dia makan nanas tu sebanyak mungkin. Dia memang berusaha untuk gugurkan kandungannya dan kata nak balik sambut raya.


"Lepas makan tu perut dia memulas-mulas. Saya pun bawa jumpa doktor team kami dan rupa-rupanya dia ada masa tiga bulan lagi untuk bersalin. Tiba-tiba dia tunjuk tanda-tanda nak bersalin, waktu tu kandungan usia tujuh bulan.

"Bila nak bersalin saya bawa ke hospital swasta kira-kira lapan kilometer dari madrasah. Sampai-sampai je dia terus bersalin... mudah betul tapi bayi yang dilahirkan itu pra matang dan kos rawatannya mahal," katanya.

Lebih menyedihkan Pak Riz berkata doktor mengesahkan bayi lelaki itu mempunyai peluang tipis untuk hidup.

"Doktor kata peluang bayi untuk hidup 50-50. Disitulah saya dipanggil sebab ia melibatkan kes remaja bersalin bawah umur. Saya pun bincang dengan hospital swasta itu minta tolong ambil kes ini.

Gadis tersebut melahirkan bayi pra matang. Sekadar gambar hiasan.

"Jadi saya perlukan surat kebenaran sebagai penjaga daripada ibu bapa gadis itu. Bila dah dapat surat maka saya pun dapat bertemu dengan bayi tersebut. Tengok keadaan dia memang tak adalah harapanlah," katanya.

Namun Pak Riz bersyukur apabila berlaku keajaiban kepada bayi tersebut dengan izin Allah.

"Baby tu duduk dalam inkubator. Saya minta kebenaran doktor untuk pegang baby tu. Bila saya pegang dia saya borak-borak dengan dia. Saya kata tolonglah buka mata. Awak kena hidup sebab awak nak sedarkan mak awak.

"Mak awak budak lagi, kalau awak ada setiap kali dia nampak awak dia nampak kesilapannya. Saya juga minta pelajar dan ustaz di madrasah buat solat hajat untuk kesejahteraan bayi itu.

"Saya juga berdoa pada Allah tapi baby tu tak bergerak sehinggalah saya teringat masa ibu dia duduk dengan kami, kami selalu berzikir. Jadi bila saya pegang baby tu saya berzikir... berzikir dan tiba-tiba tangan dan kelopak mata dia bergerak. Doktor pun terkejut," katanya.

Sejak insiden itu, kata Pak Riz, gadis tersebut mulai berubah dan bayinya membesar dengan sempurna.

"Kalau tak silap saya baby tu dah umur empat tahun... dah besar dan comel. Sekarang saya dah terputus hubungan dengan mereka. Tapi saya difahamkan baby tu duduk dengan datuk dan nenek dia.

"Gadis tu pula dah berhenti sekolah. Lepas tu dia masuk madrasah di Selangor tiga tahun lepas. Alhamdulillah dia dah habis belajar. Saya pernah jumpa dia. Dia banyak berubah. Sekarang dah pakai purdah dan jubah," katanya.

Pak Riz menawarkan pelbagai program berkaitan hal ehwal kekeluargaan sejak 26 tahun lalu.

Pak Riz yang berpengalaman selama 26 tahun sebagai perunding kekeluargaan berkata dia terpanggil untuk berkongsi kisah tersebut kerana mahu ibu bapa membuka mata mengenai masa berkualiti bersama anak-anak.

"Saya buka kisah ni sempena Ramadan sebab terkenangkan gadis itu dan bayinya. Bila saya highlight isu ni banyak mak bapa sedar. Ini bukan sekadar mengenai orang bermasalah tapi dalam diam-diam boleh berlaku tanpa pengetahuan kita. Jadi betapa pentingnya parents perlu ambil tahu mengenai masa berkualiti dengan anak.

"Peristiwa yang berlaku ini beri gambaran mengenai kasih sayang, masa dan ruang untuk anak-anak. Dalam kes ini remaja cari orang lain sebab dia tak ada tempat nak luah kasih sayang sebab parents busy. Jangan nanti dah terhantuk baru tengadah. Waktu tu dah terlambat.

"Pada masa sama saya juga mahu menyedarkan mereka yang ada masalah keluarga bahawa ada medium yang boleh mereka tuju selain Jabatan Agama Islam. Bila wujudnya orang macam saya ramai datang minta bantu mereka keluar daripada masalah terutamanya membabitkan masalah anak-anak," katanya.



From time to time, how to play Forex for beginners without capital is increasingly being touted as an easy and fast way to earn income online. However, investing in the online forex trading business is one business that requires a lot of basic knowledge and strategies, along with experience and a strong mentality. Therefore, understanding what Forex is is something that must be done really to invest in it.

Fortunately, there are currently many ways to learn what Forex is and how to play Forex for beginners without capital, so we don't have to spend a lot of money while still in the initial stages. Also, everything can be done anywhere and anytime, provided we have an internet connection and adequate devices. How to? Well, on this occasion Forex Indonesia will present a review of what is Forex, as well as tips on how to play Forex for beginners without any capital.


What is Forex?

Forex is online forex trading without physical foreign exchange movements. Forex is different from Money Changer, where currencies are exchanged directly with other currencies in cash. In forex trading, currencies are traded in pairs (for example), for instance, EUR / USD. Thus, the term "buy" in this pair in practice is "buy Euros and sell Dollars at the same time." Conversely, "sell" means "selling Euros and buying Dollars at the same time." We, as traders, can join forex trading by registering through a forex broker, making transactions via software provided by the broker, then if successful, we can benefit from price increases and decreases.

This pattern of trading makes forex traders able to get good profits when the value of a currency rises (strengthens) or decreases (weakens). Unique, right? Also, there are many advantages of Forex. Among them:

  • Forex trading is done online, using a PC, laptop, or smartphone. So, we can trade anywhere, provided there is a stable internet connection.
  • Forex trading does not need to provide millions of funds, because forex brokers have provided leverage facilities. For example, for example, if leverage is 1: 100, the trader only needs to provide funds of 1 dollar to be able to trade for 100 dollars. Currently, brokers are trying to promote their services by providing training trading accounts for free. That is, we only need to register, then we can play Forex without any capital at all.
  • Forex trading does not require a specific academic qualification or professional background. No matter whether we are only high school graduates, undergraduates, or housewives, everyone can trade Forex, as long as they want to study Forex diligently.

Forex trading seeks to benefit from those movements. For example, if you estimate EUR / USD will go up continuously, then we click the Buy button and make an order. If the graph moves up and down, we will benefit. Conversely, if you expect the EUR / USD to go down continuously, then we click the Sell button and place an order. If the graph goes down, then we will profit.

However, the decision to Buy or Sell cannot be decided only with a hunch. Note that if the chart moves in the opposite direction to the estimate, then we can lose. Therefore, including in the critical agenda on how to play Forex for beginners is to learn the basics of forex trading, technical analysis, and fundamental analysis. The basics of what forex trading will help beginners understand the terms encountered when playing Forex, while technical analysis and fundamental analysis help to make accurate estimates before buying or selling orders.

Learn Forex without capital for beginners

  • While still in the learning stage, you should take advantage of a demo trading account (Demo Account) provided by the broker for free. Steps:

  • Prepare a PC or laptop and a good internet connection. If you don't have a PC or laptop at all, you can use the internet cafe for a while. However, in the long term, it's better if you have your device. Make sure you also have an active email address.
  • Visit the site of one of the forex brokers. To learn how to play Forex for beginners, you can choose any broker.

  • Register or open a demo trading account (Demo Account). This is a trading account that contains virtual money (not real money) but allows us to see the actual market conditions. Demo trading accounts are indeed designed as learning media for beginners, so that registration is free and does not require various conditions. Just click the registered account demo button on the broker's site, then fill in the form provided. After registering, the broker will send a verification email and notification to your email. Just follow the process, until you get a link to download trading software, which is usually called Metatrader4 (MT4).
  • From the link provided by the broker, download and install the software on your PC or laptop. This is the reason why it would be better if you have your device; because of course it will be troublesome if you have to download and install every time you change devices, isn't it !?
  • Use the ID and password that the broker has sent to your email address, to enter the trading software. Well, after that, you will immediately see how currency pairs move up and down in the forex market.
  • Through trading software, we see currency movements in graphical form. For example, the chart on the EUR / USD currency pair moves up, so that means the Euro strengthens against the US Dollar. Whereas if the EUR / USD moves down, it says that the US Dollar strengthens against the Euro. Here you can understand what Forex is by witnessing price movements on the international market.

How to play Forex for beginners without capital

Have you trained on the Demo Account and want to try real trading? It's time to use the facilities to play Forex without the money provided by forex brokers. However, because not all brokers offer this facility, it is necessary to search first on the internet.

Usually, providers of forex playing facilities without capital are only individual forex brokers who are holding two types of promotions:
  • No Deposit Bonus (No Deposit Bonus)
No Deposit Bonus is real money given by the broker directly after we register. However, these funds are available individually to be used to play Forex, so it usually should not be taken for granted. If we already trade with these funds and get profits, then the benefits can be withdrawn. The size of the No Deposit Bonus from brokers varies greatly, ranging from $ 1 to $ 100. It's tiny, but it's pretty good to try. How to register is usually the same as how to open a regular trading account.
  • Demo Trading Contest
Demo Trading Contest is a forex playing contest on a demo account, so it does not require capital at all. We only need to register and then try to win the race. Usually, the top five will get a cash prize that can be traded by the winners. Awards range from $ 20 to $ 2000, so it is suitable as an alternative way to play Forex for beginners without capital. To enter the contest, we only need to open a demo account. After winning, then for Real Account.

These two facilities are the best shortcuts among various ways to determine what Forex is because it doesn't require capital at all. It's just that, to be successful, perseverance and persistence are needed. There are no successful traders instantly; all of them need to learn step by step and never give up even though they experience a loss once. Losses are a reasonable part of the study period. The key lies in capital management. If you can manage capital well and keep learning from mistakes, then the occasional loss can be ignored because long-term profits will be able to exceed it.